Kill them with kindness.
Growing up my mother always taught me to confront any person who is horrible or mean to you with nothing other than your kindness. She said it goes further to disarm anyone than fighting hatred or misunderstanding with more of the same. When I was younger I didn't quite get what she meant. To be honest, for the most part I thought it was a cop out of any “strong” or overt form of confrontation, but I was wrong. So often when we are in a situation where people are lashing out or treating us badly it is our responsibility to ourselves to inject a little kindness into that space. It doesn't mean putting up with any form of abusive behaviour but it does mean putting your reaction to one side and centring yourself in a loving mind.
Over the years, like most of you, I have come across many wounded people with negative mindsets. I have even been one of them at some points! Whenever a negativity of that calibre is launched at me I have the instinct to fight back and scream and roll in the mud just like most people but, I have learned as I have gotten older that it serves no one in that situation and plus, the action of allowing hatred demeans me. Your integrity is your sword and shield and how you display your love, compassion and kindness is directly relative to how your honour that. I recently had a client that reacted angrily to one my sessions. She was unhappy that I hadn't told her what she wanted to hear and was so scared that what the reading had displayed was true that she lashed out. Now in my line of work I am dealing with some extremely intimate wounds so that kind of reaction can happen but can you imagine what a mess it would have made if I had reacted angrily back? It would be like hitting an already fresh and festering wound. So, I remained centred in love and kindness and dealt with the client lovingly. She was so ready and eager for a fight based interaction that when it didn't arrive she was literally stumped!
I am grateful for my mothers teachings because when I come across a situation or an energy like that I now instantly try and inject a little kindness and compassion into it. I energetically invite everyone involved to a space of love. I remind myself that people only ever truly speak what is in their hearts and that behind all rage is pain. If you have someone in your life who is intentionally or unintentionally lashing out inject a little kindness and compassion into the situation. Firstly to yourself, give who you are what you need and allow that to flow out to everyone around you. Embrace and be the love that is the centre of that situation. People around you will either come along on that journey or they will fall away. The client, unfortunately chose the latter but a seed of peace has been planted and when she is ready it can grow. Do the same for those around you. They may not be ready to come on your journey with you right at this time but lay the ground-works for them to do so later on.